tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182754721491331897.post8893708100559244318..comments2022-01-01T13:02:20.028-08:00Comments on "Created to Be His Help Meet" discussion: Point 8HelpedMeethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02743632070070708780noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182754721491331897.post-63934248288753769912015-05-29T15:42:58.646-07:002015-05-29T15:42:58.646-07:00I was also confused by her telling women that they...I was also confused by her telling women that they needed to "earn" their husbands love. If husbands are to love their wives like Christ loves the church it should be an unconditional love like God has for us!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182754721491331897.post-27830554774886729222013-03-25T05:26:39.612-07:002013-03-25T05:26:39.612-07:00I grew up with the Pearl's teaching, and was a...I grew up with the Pearl's teaching, and was always a little in awe of how Michael claimed to you could "stop sinning", and soaked up Debi's advice as a newly married woman. I haven't read the book in about 5 years, and my husband and I have changed a lot since then. I really appreciate y'alls review. It amazes me how much I missed when I read it all those years ago. I mean, how much I was blind to. I think you hit the nail on the head in this post, when you said that a woman should love her husband and serve him not out of fear of losing him, but out of love and reverence for him, but also ultimately for God!! We should be motivated by our faith and trust and love in Jesus Christ, not FEAR!! That is really the heart of so many of the issues in this book. Thanks again for all your thoughtful reviews!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182754721491331897.post-73999459671488678552011-10-02T14:46:56.196-07:002011-10-02T14:46:56.196-07:00I agree with your review, i can see that all your ...I agree with your review, i can see that all your points were well thought through and well explained. One thing that disturbed me the most about this book is captured in Point 8. In fact i stopped reading the book after seeing Debi calling other women with such demaning terms. The author didn't come across to me as a gracecious woman who is full of the peace of the holy spirit. Quite honest, it's the opposite - angry, bitter, and judgemental.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182754721491331897.post-80239025024273515912010-10-14T12:55:44.182-07:002010-10-14T12:55:44.182-07:00Debi Pearl says that we as women cannot expect our...Debi Pearl says that we as women cannot expect our husbands to love us if we are unlovely. I would respectfully, and I believe Biblically,disagree. The bible tells us that Jesus came to die for us not when we were godly, but when we were unsaved and unsightly. Unlovely. It also exhorts husbands to 'love your own wives as Christ loved the church'. Husbands are to love their wives, lovely or unlovely, as God loved us all, unlovely as we are. We are to do the same by them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182754721491331897.post-66886174147866335322010-05-17T20:49:35.903-07:002010-05-17T20:49:35.903-07:00Thank you for your research. The name calling was...Thank you for your research. The name calling was attrocious to me and so much is taken out of context. If we want to talk about being better wives, this is not the book to waste our time in!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182754721491331897.post-33120045876269582612010-01-12T13:36:15.910-08:002010-01-12T13:36:15.910-08:00I agree that this book carries a lot of confusing ...I agree that this book carries a lot of confusing mixtures of both sound wisdom (it has definitely been a help to me over the years) and yet imposes guilt and shame upon women, which is very unbiblical. The older women are indeed to teach the younger, but like you made the point, it should be done in reverence before the Lord and humility. The Pearls seem to definitely have an attitude of superiority and condescending to those who do not "have it all together". By the grace of God ONLY are we any better than our brother or sister in the Lord. Thank you for this website, I plan to bookmark it and refer to it. I appreciate your wisdom and your taking the time to explain in detail the problems with this book yet not in a mean and spiteful way. May the Lord bless you and use this site for His glory.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17715664122604258783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182754721491331897.post-30320818099110943662009-08-15T04:13:59.195-07:002009-08-15T04:13:59.195-07:00You have done a valuable review of the book and th...You have done a valuable review of the book and thanks a lot! is not easy discerning good and bad especially when presented like supported by Scripture.The book is such a mixture...some sounds like sensible advice, making it more confusing(especially for an unmarried girl like me). Your /putting into words/ helped me a lot!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-182754721491331897.post-58396773323227293582008-12-13T04:13:00.000-08:002008-12-13T04:13:00.000-08:00thank you so....much. Started reading this book -...thank you so....much. Started reading this book -- and Debi's name calling really took me by surprise. My thinking is, is this a person who is mature in Christ? One can exhort and do it with love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com